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Painless Productivity

Are you tired of feeling behind?

You may sit down to do some work and suddenly find yourself scrolling social media, cleaning your room, or doing anything other than working. It can take hours to work up the nerve to tackle a really important task, or you might skip it on your to do list day after day as you focus on easier, but less important things.

Then when it’s time to unplug from work, you might have trouble letting it go. The guilt and worry can hang over your head while you talk to your partner, play with your kids, or try to relax.

I know you care.

People tell you that you just need more motivation, more willpower, more discipline. That if you’re not striving, you just don’t want it bad enough.

What they don’t realize is that caring about your work and wanting to do a good job is part of what makes it so hard to face! Pushing yourself may work for a day or a week, but then it leaves you even more resistant to facing your intimidating tasks.

Techniques aren’t enough.

So you turn to the productivity gurus, and they all seem to have One Weird Trick that should fix everything.

You buy that beautiful planner that’s sure to change your life.

You set timers, you block out time on your schedule, you make a coworking plan with a friend.

It works! You’re a new person! For about two weeks. And then it starts to get hard to use your favorite new techique. You blame yourself for not having the fortitude to stick with it, but the truth is, you’re subconsciously resisting your intimidating tasks, and these techniques can’t trick your subconscious forever.

Here’s what you need to know about procrastination:

  1. It’s not caused by a lack of motivation, but by a conflict between your motivation to do and your motivation to avoid.
  2. Your motivation to avoid is largely driven by subconscious fears, and you can’t change those by just telling yourself that you’re being irrational.

…but you can change them.

Working with Presley has enabled change in ways I did not realize were possible before I embarked on this work.

Jess S.

It takes:

  • Self-compassion. This is not just for funsies; it’s an actual requirement for bringing about deep and lasting rather than temporary, superficial change.
  • Going to the root cause. That self-compassion makes it possible to dig deep into your psyche and find the subconscious beliefs that are driving your avoidance, so that you can stop overcompensating for them and address them.
  • Experiential learning. You can tell yourself that the email waiting in your inbox cannot actually hurt you until the cows come home; you’ll still feel like it’s out to get you until you bring yourself into a full-body “aha” moment.

That’s what we do in my 1-1 coaching package, Painless Productivity.

Why it works

Painless Productivity addresses all these requirements for lasting change in your productivity:

  • It guides you into uncovering new insights about why you procrastinate so that compassion for yourself comes naturally.
  • It explores your subconscious fears, like the fear of failure (or the fear of success!), and finds one that is driving your avoidance.
  • It gives you the opportunity to realize on a deep level that your fear is unfounded and adopt a broader, more balanced perspective.

Easy to stick to

Of course, you’ll only be successful at something you can stick to. That’s why:

  • We schedule all of your sessions at the beginning for a recurring day and time.
  • The coaching is completely customized to you. If you can’t visualize, we’ll use non-visual techniques. If your ADHD makes it hard to sit still, we’ll work with your movement.
  • We keep a collaborative online journal about our work together so you have one place to look for reminders and one place to keep notes to me and to yourself.
  • Any exercises I suggest are designed to take five minutes or less, and I help you establish a habit of making time for it.
  • When you tell me you didn’t do your exercises, I don’t say “You’re not going to get results if you don’t put in the work!” I say “That’s great information. What made them hard for you? What can we learn from that?”
  • When you tell me you’re feeling resistant to coaching, I don’t say “I only work with coachable people!” I say “That means a part of you is concerned, and we’re going to respect that. What is the concern?”

Previous “life” coaching experiences sometimes left me feeling unseen or unheard. Like being handed advice that you feel doesn’t really fit. With Presley’s coaching, this never happened.

Chris F.

What’s included

  • One goal-setting session where we take stock of where you’re at, discuss where you want to go, get to the bottom of what’s really important to you about that goal, and determine how to assess progress along the way.
  • 14 deep work sessions where I use parts work, somatic work, and other techniques to help you develop self-compassion, uncover the root cause of your procrastination, and have your “aha” moments.
  • One reflection session where we take a bird’s eye view of the package so that you leave with a clear summary of what you learned and what you accomplished, and a plan for how to carry your momentum forward.

Common results

Insight

Clients get new insights into why they do what they do and feel what they feel:

Presley just gently guides and you discover what is true for you.

Anne K.

Self-compassion

These insights naturally lead to less shame and more self-compassion:

Accepting those feelings helped me bring more self-love to other struggles and interactions.

Kate C.

This is helping me to bring a lot more compassion and empathy into my inner life, which is freeing more energy for the work I need to do.

Chris F.

Mindfulness and Skill

Then the work we do in sessions starts to become available to them in everyday life. They start to become more mindful, noticing when they’re having an unhelpful thought or urge and working with it skillfully:

I’m ending the series not only with pervasive experiences, but very granular, hands-on ways of coping with and bouncing back from my work (and interrelational) triggers.

Chris F.

Working with Presley over time, I’ve been able to experience more of the “self” being in the driver’s seat. Rather than specific parts automatically taking over the system, I’m able to pause and engage the self with that part in a consultative way.

Jess S.

I am truly amazed at how quickly this method can be used in day to day tasks and situations. It becomes a natural way to relate to the self.

Kristi

Reduced Stress

When an “aha” moment lands, the stress you’re currently feeling from constantly fighting yourself melts away:

Over the course of doing the Painless Productivity package, everything got 15-20% easier and less stressful.

Melissa Post

The outcome of this engagement both reduces stress and overwhelm, and increases productivity.

Jess S.

Unlocked Productivity

The “aha” moment brings a deep change in a specific area of your productivity. Since the package is completely customized to you, it addresses whichever area of your productivity needs the most attention. For instance, Anne F. needed to get better at saying no to make more time for her own work:

I don’t feel the dreadful internal feeling of “obligation” to satisfy another person’s wishes, needs, requests etc. I just felt a kind of quiet calm, that I have my boundaries and I’m going to honour them. And it’s okay if that person doesn’t like it or has negative feelings towards me about it.

Anne F.

Taylor needed to heal from empathic burnout before she could start getting more done:

Aspects of my work that were leading towards burnout feel less overwhelming and more manageable. Areas of my personal life where I knew “something” was missing now feel like areas where I know what I want to change.

Taylor

Melissa needed to get out of the cycle of using adrenaline to power her productivity and then crashing:

I don’t have to use that fear-based drive all the time anymore. Now I am learning that I can feel safe and calm, and be active at the same time.

Melissa Post

And so, the results of the package vary widely, but in a way that fits your needs in this moment.

The Details

  • All 16 sessions are 50-minute one-on-one video calls.
  • Sessions are held weekly or biweekly.
  • The standard price is $500/month for 4 months. Let me know if another payment plan would make it more doable for you.
  • Those with financial need can pay less and those who’d like to support others’ access to coaching are welcome to pay more, for a range of $400-$600/month.

Low Risk

  • All unused sessions are fully refundable until the package expiration date, 8 months from purchase.
  • There is no fee to reschedule sessions given notice. No-call no-show sessions are forfeited by default but I can reinstate your session if your sudden absence was unavoidable.
  • I approach consultation calls from the angle of “how can I give you the information you need to find out if this is what you want?” not “how can I get you to sign up?” No hard sells here.

Are you a good fit?

Painless Productivity is not about:

  • optimizing your to do list and planner
  • improving your throughput by setting up automations
  • finding ADHD accommodations

These are great goals! But they’re not the focus of this package, which is about finding the root cause of the inner conflict that’s holding back your ability to get things done.

Because Painless Productivity uses powerful techniques for working with your thoughts and feelings, it is also not a good fit for people who:

  • are currently in a mental health crisis
  • feel unsafe tuning into their physical sensations
  • experience traumatic flashbacks, dissociative amnesia, or psychosis
  • have coping mechanisms that put themselves or others at risk of lasting harm

Painless Productivity works really well for people who:

  • struggle specifically with tasks that are daunting, intimidating, or overdue.
  • may have ADHD, but if so, have already explored the basic accommodations and lifestyle changes they need and are ready to explore their emotional blockers.
  • feel comfortable opening up to me about their thoughts and feelings. (You can find out in a free consultation!)

Is it right for you?

We can find out together in a free, no-pressure consultation:

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Full Testimonials

When I started coaching with Presley, I was having a lot of trouble getting started on projects. The only way I could get myself to do hard things was to use adrenaline-fueled hyperfixation. I had to feel like I was under threat in order to be motivated. And even then, I was struggling to do things.

Over the course of doing the Painless Productivity package, everything got 15-20% easier and less stressful. I signed up for a course that I previously would have been too intimidated to try, and I’m off to a good start on it! I still can’t believe I chose this course, but I found my genuine interest in it and that helps me be less afraid to be wrong.

In the past, I would have motivated myself to work on this topic by looking at other people’s GitHub projects and then making myself feel so bad about it that I needed to do it. But now, I’m not going to do that. I’m going to find what I actually care about and what I actually want to do that has nothing to do with feeling like I need to compare myself to someone else.

Even though I’m moving past my need to use adrenaline and threats to motivate myself, our work together made me admire this driven part of me that used adrenaline to push me all my life. Now I look at all the obstacles I’ve faced and think, “I really had to overcome all that to do things, and still kept up that drive most of my life? That’s amazing!”

And yet, I don’t have to use that fear-based drive all the time anymore. Now I am learning that I can feel safe and calm, and be active at the same time.

It’s a brand new world, and I’m taking baby steps into it. Of course I haven’t become perfectly productive, but after these few months of coaching, I feel ready to explore this new world on my own.

Melissa Post

Working with Presley as a parts work coach has been extremely worthwhile and has enabled change in ways I did not realize were possible before I embarked on this work.

Presley is extremely well versed in Internal Family Systems, and asks thoughtful questions to help her clients engage with their parts from a place of compassion and open-mindedness.  As a result, she has been able to help me work through challenges and implement effective and sustainable solutions. 

Working with Presley over time, I’ve been able to experience more of the “self” being in the driver’s seat. Rather than specific parts automatically taking over the system, I’m able to pause and engage the self with that part in a consultative way. The outcome of this engagement both reduces stress and overwhelm, and increases productivity. 

I can’t recommend enough working with Presley as a parts work coach, and I would be happy to chat with anyone who would like to know more about my experience!

Jess S.

This work helped me think about myself differently. Aspects of my work that were leading towards burnout feel less overwhelming and more manageable. Areas of my personal life where I knew “something” was missing now feel like areas where I know what I want to change.

Taylor

I’m definitely feeling more empowered to catch up on large and small tasks. I think I’m also recognizing more easily that there are times I can’t be at my most perfectly productive and I feel more accepting of myself in those moments and less critical and judgmental.

In retrospect this guided Parts work, even though it was often truly exhausting, reached deeper into my issues than anything else I’ve ever tried. I’m ending the series not only with pervasive experiences, but very granular, hands-on ways of coping with and bouncing back from my work (and interrelational) triggers.

Chris F.

Even though I had the willpower and grit to take on learning coding for the first time, making progress was a nightmare. Struggling with difficult to learn concepts and new ways of tackling them went way beyond impostor syndrome; studying Python regularly left me in tears and dreading the next session. Reassurances from other programmers that struggling and frustration was “normal” didn’t help because I could tell even though it might not be more difficult for me to learn to code, it was more difficult for me to control my emotions and the feelings of self-recrimination that grew out of them.

Parts work drew me as an interesting modality but its emphasis on parsing yourself out into different sub-personalities was pretty far from my experience of my inner life. Still, I could tell I had a lot of inner conflict over my decision to learn to code and other parts of IFS, like the Self, drew my interest and curiosity.

Presley did a fantastic job as a parts coach, letting me take my own time and cater my way of expressing myself to work with the modality. Working through my feelings and my parts, her work with me helped me realize that I tried to tell myself a story that coding was “more important” than the creative work I had been so happy to rediscover in my thirties after half a decade of pushing it aside to carve out my ability to survive post-divorce. I realized I needed to make space for the intellectual pursuits that were important to me emotionally and existentially in order to make space for career development.

She also helped me realize I needed to stop trying to push aside my feelings of frustration and defeat when I was coding, and I had to learn to accept that I was someone who maybe felt their frustration more intensely even if it was inconvenient or “weird.” Giving myself space to feel upset when something didn’t click–instead of trying to argue myself out of feeling bad learning a really challenging skill–ultimately helped me take another stab at learning a concept sooner. It also helped me give myself permission to take a break when I needed to instead of when I thought I should need to.

Ultimately, I realized it was toxic to try and force myself to feel positive all the time when I’m learning coding or other challenging STEM subjects. Recriminating myself for feeling defeated when I was struggling only added more fuel to the fire of self-hatred. Learning that I had to accept my bad feelings helped me realize that feeling things intensely gives me other gifts like empathy, creativity, and joy. Accepting those feelings helped me bring more self-love to other struggles and interactions and helped me realize even feeling bad about yourself over shit that doesn’t matter in the cosmic scheme of the universe is normal and human. Not unlike grief, you have to move through those feelings instead of forcing yourself into an even deeper cycle of shame and self-recrimination.

Kate C.