
An Engineer Finds True Confidence
Sometimes I talk about “true confidence” and how it can help people face intimidating tasks and get more done, without having to “fake it till you make it.” But it might be hard to imagine how people find this confidence and what it feels like. So I’ll share a story of a session I had with a client that I’ll call Andy, where he uncovered his true confidence, not by faking it or convincing himself, but as a natural consequence of looking inside himself.
Andy is an engineer who loves to make art projects in his free time. He’s been working with me because his job includes a task that feels impossible, and when he tries to do it, he bounces off of it and automatically reaches for something different to do.
By this session, Andy said that The Impossible Task was already feeling “more approachable.” He’d broken it down into subtasks, and some of them felt achievable, but some of them still felt impossible. So we picked one of the impossible subtasks – a report he needed to write up and present in a meeting – and started exploring his feelings around it.
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