Authentic Confidence for Conscientious Workers

You just want to feel like you’re good at your job.

But no matter how hard you try or how much you achieve, you never feel like you’ve “arrived.”

You want to dig into your work, get deeply engaged, and learn new things – but you’re afraid that if you ask too many questions, your colleagues will realize you’re not as smart as they thought.

You want to express yourself in meetings, share your ideas in conferences, and become a thought leader – but one minute you think your ideas are brilliant, and the next minute, you wish you’d never opened your mouth.

You want to go for a raise, a promotion, or a new job – but even the job you have doesn’t feel totally safe. You can’t tell if you’re doing great and ready for more, or just lucky no one has found you out yet.

You know better, but that’s not enough.

You’ve reminded yourself of your accomplishments.

Your friends have told you how smart you are.

Your manager says not to worry.

But the knots in your stomach just aren’t listening.

You need to feel better.

Most advice for Imposter Syndrome is top-down, targeting your thoughts and hoping that changes your feelings.

But if that worked, you’d have nailed it by now. You need an approach that can change how you feel.

And that’s possible. It’s just not something that many people offer. You may have a therapist but always end up working on your relationships instead of how you feel at work. You may hire a career coach but focus only on the practical questions, not on your feelings. You may turn to self-help books and find them inspiring, but notice that they don’t impact your life much once you put them down.

The deep-seated feeling of being an imposter keeps slipping through the cracks. That’s why I developed a coaching package specifically for it.

Introducing a holistic approach to Imposter Syndrome

In my 6 month private coaching program On Solid Ground, I help you address Imposter Syndrome on every level:

• Cultural: put your self-doubt in its proper context – sexism, racism, ableism, and dysfunctional company cultures bear a lot of the responsibility here!
• Mental: unwind your self-critical thoughts and rumination cycles.
• Somatic: soothe your nervous system and release the stress your body has been holding onto.
• Emotional: face your fears with compassion.
• Gifts: find your untapped inner resources and practice using them in your life.

Because Authentic Confidence is already within you

The truth is, you don’t need the “confidence of a mediocre white man.” Underneath your uncertainty and fear, your authentic brand of confidence is just waiting to be set free. 

And the world needs it. We’ve had enough of the fakeness and the arrogance; we need authentic people believing in themselves, learning without fear, and sharing their gifts.

The first step is easy

Take my Flavors of Confidence quiz to find out what kinds of confidence you’re strong in and which kinds you need more of.